Its A Family Affair - Working Out The Details

I am always asked “How do you do it?” The answer is always God. But if you are looking for a practical guide how my household works well, I have not created such nor do I think it's remotely possible. In all fairness though, its not a ME situation its a WE. We operate off a schedule during the school year because our home is pretty multifaceted. Maintaining some sense of a schedule helps with those unpredictable situations. Sounds almost counterintuitive but its not. Operating off a schedule makes me fully aware of how I need to shift things around when emergencies happen, instead of scrambling around in dismay.



School Days

This past school year we tried something a bit different. My husband was responsible for getting our son dressed in the morning and getting him off to the bus. Thereafter, depending on the day either he drops the teen girls off to school or I will do it. Most often he does it and then he prepares to head to work.


Your thoughts: Why does he does he do all of that before work?


Answer: I was a stickler for dressing our son. I felt I do it better and quicker in the mornings. However, things shifted when the youngest baby arrived. Jay grew and picking him up had become a little bit more difficult for me. With this, my husband handling him in the morning gives my back a break. Also, my sleep is still disrupted at night due to breastfeeding so, it's kind of a rest thing as well. In regards to taking the girls to school, around the time the teens head to school, the two little ones wake up. When they wake up, the floodgates have opened and it's time to have on your laser vision. If you can imagine, it's easier to drop kids off to school rather than jumpstart breakfast for two toddlers who wake up in a frenzy. We found this is what works for us.



During The Day Until 7pm

These are the hours I am put to work. During the day, I have toddlers and I am on standby for any surprise situations with my teens at school (believe me it happens more than desired). Along with that though, I am teaching them, dismantling fights (yes they have them!), picking up spills, changing diapers and running three of my businesses. Its challenging. Between tantrums, emails and phone calls, I am depleted and sometimes feel defeated two to three hours into the day. Courageously though, I pick myself up by the bootstraps and keep pushing.


Well into the afternoon, I begin preparing to receive the older kids and plan out the rest of the evening. Insert cocktails here. I cook, I do a couple pick ups and drop offs to dance, I prepare our son for the beginning steps for bed. To be honest, I am in full autopilot at this time of day and I just like to get things done.


Daddy's Home

No, this is not exactly like an Usher Video with sexy dancing and feelings of lust perse. When my husband makes it home the toddlers literally charge at him as if he is a matador and they are bulls, it's the most insane scene you have ever laid your eyes on! His first stop is sitting to the kitchen table where his food waits(Disclaimer: This is what I want to do because I was raised this way and its deserving) for him. We debrief at this time, I get him caught up to speed with what has happened during the past ten hours. Thereafter, he caters to our son and dibble and dabble with the toddlers. They tend to enjoy hanging at his pants leg when he arrives home, this means they hang out in the room with our son.