Open Letter To Men: One Reason Why You Aren't Having Frequent Sex

SEX and married with children. Let's just start by saying hindsight is 20/20. Its often thought that married couples drown themselves in countless hours of passionate sex because they are married. Contrary to popular belief, most married men are perplexed at why the sex machine they may have married seems to need a tune up, because the sexcapades have dropped down dramatically. Well, the answer is, "Dude, she hasn't had a chance to shower."


I know you are saying eww or your face is frowned as if you smell the manure from a farm, however hear me out and this and I guarantee your perspective will change.


Mothers are busy and we are exhausted. We are gifted with the abilities to do all the things and sometimes that comes at a stinky price. The price of taking care of ourselves. Now, for some moms this is no the issue. However, after being part of many mom groups and reading many posts on social media, I have gathered that moms desire the flexibility to shower on a consistent basis without having an accomplice in the bathroom with her.


Men, can you blame her? Can you imagine taking a shower and always having to adhere to requests or questions just as your big toe touches the water? I know YOU CAN'T!



Simply put, you are not having sex because she hasn't had an opportunity to shower. This is where you can change the trajectory of your sex life with a simple good deed. Put the children to sleep or better yet, tell her she can go shower and you will hold down the children. Its really that simple. You may be saying, "All she has to do is ask me." Yes that is true however, moms run in autopilot. We do all the things and sometimes waiting around on others wastes more time than we would like.


Mom's this part is for you. Hygiene is undoubtedly a factor in the self care department. Better yet, its a detrimental part of your daily routine. We have to get in the habit of demanding the things that we KNOW we need and sis, a shower is one of those. We have to get in the habit of using our voice outside of our home but most importantly, INSIDE OUR HOME! We have to keep ourselves a priority and stop putting (Insert your name ) last on the list. Basically, we have to do better. We love our children and our spouses and we want everyone to be happy, however, prioritizing ourselves is love.


So men, I have shared the secret with you. Tonight is your night, allow your wife or significant other to take a shower or bath uninterrupted and put the kids to bed. Oh and remember a mom blog just gave you the best advice you have ever had.

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